Honestly, I don't see why people are so upset about this double-standard - there are tons of them in communication. There are plenty of times people within a particular group can say things about their members but get upset if someone outside the group does. (For instance, families that tease each other or criticize each other but unite to back that person up if a non-family-member criticizes them.) Everyone is acting like this is the only word that falls into this category, which I think is silly. *shrugs*