Why I left the SCA....

[poltr1]

Many years ago, when I lived in Buffalo, I was active in the local chapter of the Society for Creative Anachronism. I developed a persona, and did things like archery, fencing, calligraphy, and leatherwork.

But after two years, I soon felt that my attendance at events and activities was tolerated. I didn't feel that I was welcome, but at the same time, I didn't feel that I was unwelcome. I was never invited to become a member of a household. I had people tell me, "The Laurels will never approve your name". And I had a bad experience at an event, when I had to leave the site to make a phone call. So there I am, out in the mundane world, while still dressed in garb, and making a phone call. (This was way before the invention or proliferation of cell phones.) But that's not the fault of the people in the organization.

For the most part, I enjoyed myself at the first few events. Didn't get to meet any special ladies, though. :-( Maybe I was trying too hard.

Then, nearly 20 years ago, I moved to Dayton. I heard there was an active group, but I never pursued them.

I'm still friends with a few people who are still active in the SCA. But I doubt I'll attend another event or activity. Even if it's Pennsic.

Comments

[catalana.livejournal.com]

Most households are essentially groups of friends; you have to make friends with people to become a member of the household. There are pretty strict naming conventions if you want to actually get your name approved by the Laurel King of Arms, so many names get rejected or modified. I wouldn't take it personally if I were you.

None of which means you need to resume the SCA - I haven't been to an event in years - just that these two points should probably be kept in perspective.