Box A24.....
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poltr1I just completed going through a box of old mail and correspondence from 1989-91. I had been putting off going through this box for months.
What was in this box? Letters from my parents. Letters from my sister. Letters from friends in Buffalo, Ohio, and elsewhere. Old wedding invitations. Christmas cards from 1989 and 1990. (Am I the only one who saves old cards?)
In a way, it was like a time capsule from my life back then. I had just started my first full-time job here in Dayton. I had a good rapport with my co-workers. And I went to SF conventions to meet people with a common interest -- programming was secondary.
As I was reading the old cards and notes, I asked myself, "Where are some of those people now? Where did they go?" The folks I met at gaming and SF conventions -- Dennis, Atlanta, and Marlene (we never actually met; she was a friend of a friend) -- I haven't heard from or seen in years. I don't even know if they're still active in fandom or gaming. I very rarely see any of my former co-workers from TRW or Battelle.
I don't remember any big blow-ups with any of them. We just drifted apart and lost contact. I'd love to drop them a line, but I probably don't have current addresses for them. Some have changed their names, usually through marriage. And some may have passed away. (And yes, I'm tired of me always having to initiate or re-initiate contact. Very few people seek me out.)
And that's partly why I avoid making friends in the workplace. When one of us moves on, the friendship dissolves. I sometimes worry that the same thing will happen in the current circles of friends I'm in now -- filk, LJ, the Bismarck, my I-group. It's happened in the past in the various groups I used to be in -- now that I'm no longer in the group, I'm like a stranger to them.
What was in this box? Letters from my parents. Letters from my sister. Letters from friends in Buffalo, Ohio, and elsewhere. Old wedding invitations. Christmas cards from 1989 and 1990. (Am I the only one who saves old cards?)
In a way, it was like a time capsule from my life back then. I had just started my first full-time job here in Dayton. I had a good rapport with my co-workers. And I went to SF conventions to meet people with a common interest -- programming was secondary.
As I was reading the old cards and notes, I asked myself, "Where are some of those people now? Where did they go?" The folks I met at gaming and SF conventions -- Dennis, Atlanta, and Marlene (we never actually met; she was a friend of a friend) -- I haven't heard from or seen in years. I don't even know if they're still active in fandom or gaming. I very rarely see any of my former co-workers from TRW or Battelle.
I don't remember any big blow-ups with any of them. We just drifted apart and lost contact. I'd love to drop them a line, but I probably don't have current addresses for them. Some have changed their names, usually through marriage. And some may have passed away. (And yes, I'm tired of me always having to initiate or re-initiate contact. Very few people seek me out.)
And that's partly why I avoid making friends in the workplace. When one of us moves on, the friendship dissolves. I sometimes worry that the same thing will happen in the current circles of friends I'm in now -- filk, LJ, the Bismarck, my I-group. It's happened in the past in the various groups I used to be in -- now that I'm no longer in the group, I'm like a stranger to them.
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Date: 2004-12-20 09:57 am (UTC)