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So, it's been nearly 2 years since The Ex and I split up. I'm in no hurry to get back into a relationship. But there are a few women in my life that I wouldn't mind dating. And I'm not quite sure how I should approach them with the topic. If I invited them out to dinner, I think they'd accept.
It's not like high school or college anymore, where I was just too strange for the young women around me.
Any advice?
It's not like high school or college anymore, where I was just too strange for the young women around me.
Any advice?
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Date: 2009-03-11 02:59 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2009-03-11 04:05 pm (UTC)Easing into relationships - some thoughts.
Date: 2009-03-11 11:54 pm (UTC)For a smaller invite - ask the woman to join you for coffee or tea mid-afternoon. Its not as big a time commitment as lunch or dinner and is often time-limited, so each of you can get a 'taste' of the other 1:1 rather than a sys dump.
Activities you both enjoy give you time together and things to discuss, deeping the friendship/relationship.
I'd suggest public venues initially, not your home, so the woman's safety antena won't go on auto-pilot and interfere with getting to know each other.
As you develop deeper friendships, you can disclose that you are ready to move into more than a friendship in your life (yes, a little indirect) and test the waters. If she says she's not at that point yet, either a) she's letting you know she's not interested in you or b) she really isn't at that point in her life (a bit more likely with larger age differences). Being a little indirect allows the topic to be discussed without overt rejection.
BJ